For one year, I blogged.
It was an amazing thing: I wrote, I clicked “Publish.” I posted. Instantly, I received feedback.
It would appear as though I thrive on instant feedback.
People liked what I wrote. And by “people,” I mean friends I’d given the stealthy URL to. They’d read, they’d laugh, they’d add me to their bookmarks. They’d check me out along with their other online haunts every day. Sometimes they’d comment, and I’d be elated.
Acknowledgment: for a writer, is there anything more to life than that?
That’s an interesting question, and it’s why I haven’t written publicly since I stopped posting over two years ago. Because there is more to it than that for me. The more I wrote, and the more I handed out the URL to my friends, the more I realized that what made a compelling story was honesty.But who wants to be honest when everyone you know is reading your blog?
And who wants to read a blog that’s less than honest?
I’m not like my most admired writers. I’m not David Sedaris who, with every lispy turn of phrase, throws his dysfunctional family under the bus. And I’m not Anne Lamott who, with painfully sharp and witty insight, offers up her vulnerabilities to be examined, ridiculed, and loved. I’m Madeline, a pseudonym with stories to tell — and a need for people to read them — while safely behind a firewall of privacy.
When I’m blogging, or wishing I was blogging, I notice profound things every day. And, for reasons that are beyond me, I am overwhelmed with the desperate need to tell you about these things. Why? I have. No. Idea. I don’t even know you! But I think that’s something innate in all writers: we can’t not write things down. For me, it’s a matter of recording before forgetting. Creating for others’ relating. Marking indelibly, before perishing. I record in pixels what the ancients carved in stone, only to remember and be remembered.
So there’s my first nugget of honesty. I don’t generally wear my narcissism on my sleeve.
And yet, here I am to spill my guts to you, and the rest of the English speaking world. In a way, I’m brave to bare my soul. And in another, I’m a coward to do it anonymously. Why can’t I just own my stories? Stand by them like any good friend would do, sling my arm around them, and pose for pictures?
Because then everyone would know I’m nuts. Clearly, unequivocally, gonzo-bonzo.
Don’t get me wrong. I love my neuroses like an old maid loves her cats. I celebrate them every chance I get and tell stories about them incessantly, especially while tipsy at dinner parties. Oh yes, I know how to captivate an audience while completely lacking a filter. It’s a gift.
So let’s see how this goes. This honesty in storytelling. Filters and firewalls begone! Let’s see what it feels like to say thing things that can’t be said. Let’s tell stories that need telling, without the chance of recognition, for better or worse. Let’s see if I can dig far enough, and keep quiet enough about posting, to write the way a writer should.
Openly, honestly, and in stone.

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March 25, 2008 at 3:07 pm
Baraka
The more I wrote, and the more I handed out the URL to my friends, the more I realized that what made a compelling story was honesty.But who wants to be honest when everyone you know is reading your blog?
And who wants to read a blog that’s less than honest?
Exactly.
I relate so much to your dilemma, having shut down one blog and started another where I could be honest and not worry about what my mom (et al) was going to say.
That’s why I love this essay and recite 5, 13, 15, and 19 to myself every day over morning coffee.
Welcome back to blogging – I’m looking forward to reading more!
Love,
Baraka
March 31, 2008 at 9:56 am
Madeline
What a fabulous link! Thanks, Baraka. I think I’ll need to make that blog a daily haunt for a while. She rocks.
P.S. regarding #13, kindly point me to all your entries about sex.
March 31, 2008 at 4:39 pm
Baraka
Ah Maddy, it’s all about sex on my secret blog
April 2, 2008 at 2:40 am
muppiechronicles
When I was really little, like too little to think about these things, I decided that someday I would write a book because it was the only way to become immortal.
So, I dig.
(Loving it, by the by.)
April 2, 2008 at 9:53 am
Madeline
Muppichronicles: Thanks so much for dropping by. Crazy thoughts for little thinkers, don’t you think? But I copy that, my friend. Happy to meet a kindred.
May 4, 2008 at 6:28 am
Achelois
“The first time I said “I love you” was the night before he was going to foray into the woods, and I was traveling overseas to visit a friend. I had to say it then or never, because it was so obvious that if I managed to survive my plane ride, he would most certainly be eaten by bears.”
Haha! i couldn’t stop laughing at that. You are so crazy and so sweet! I am just as paranoid myself. I try not to look into the children’s or Aly’s eyes when they leave home every morning
May 12, 2008 at 11:34 pm
Madeline
Achelois, SO great to find another paranoid person out there. So strange, isn’t it? We really do have to laugh, or else we’ll go mad.